If you think you have the personal charisma of a bullfrog or a banana slug, listen up. I know it is hard for you to believe this. I know you are having a tough time. Maybe, when you look at the mirror, you see a complete and total zero. Maybe you believe that you are the worst loser on the planet because you cannot get it on with the ladies.
I have some interesting news for you. Everybody, by this I mean everybody, at some level or another, has a natural level of charm. That is right. You can be charming if you want to. Given the right circumstances, you can say the right things to the right people to produce the right results. To top it all off, everybody has this ability.
We can all be cute and a bit charming. We can all be attractive members of the opposite sex. Now, this does not mean that all the guys look like Leonardo DiCaprio nor does this mean that all the girls look like Angelina Jolie. Instead, charm is situational. Some people may find you cute, adorable and almost irresistible in certain contexts, but completely repugnant and repulsive in others.
It is situational. It varies from time to time and person to person. Now you may be thinking that it is just a matter of luck. It varies so much that there is really no point in trying to exercise your natural charm. Obviously cannot control love or what is going on around you and how people are feeling. You have to understand that this natural level of charm is trying to come out. You will you have this core animal magnetism deep within you.
The problem is you are sabotaging yourself. This self-sabotage actually operates on two levels. First, there is the issue of suppression. As you grow up, you become more and more sensitive to what people around you are thinking and saying. For example, it is not uncommon to find little kids age three, to pick their noses randomly and casually. In fact, a lot of kids do this all the time. By the time they become teenagers, they become so self-conscious about picking their nose that they are able to control themselves until they get to the bathroom to whip out a tissue.
Do you see do you see how this works? You learn how to suppress certain behaviors because other people disapprove of your natural tendencies. When they see you as a kid picking your nose, they would say to you that it is disgusting or gross. This negative feedback would then have a profound impact on your psyche. Guess what? You would suppress the disapproved behavior.
On the other side, there is the problem of repression. You just assume that you are a loser and that you are not going to get together with members of the opposite sex. This corrupts and perverts your expectations. It actually creates a downward spiral. The more you fail with chicks, the more you think that you are a loser. Thus, you are more likely to fail with chicks and on and on it goes.
So where does an animal magnetism figure in all of this? Well, actually it is right smack dab in the middle. To unleash your per animal magnetism, you just have to admit to yourself that you have some level of natural attractiveness. That is the first step to your becoming capable of being sexy at the right place, at the right time, to the right people.
After you have made that breakthrough, celebrate your natural magnetism with affirmations. Look at yourself in the mirror and say that you are not a bad-looking guy. You are more than capable of hooking up with a lot of ladies. You have what it takes to please many women, so on and so forth. These affirmations build up your self-confidence. If you keep it up, you would be able to go from verbal affirmations to visual affirmations to action. The end goal here is to become such an irresistible chick magnet because you because of your deep reservoir of self-confidence.
The only way to trigger this is to create an upward spiral where you act confidently and where women find you sexy. You go out on a lot more dates. You get flattered by women and they compliment you. This boosts your self-confidence that you are able to achieve greater and greater results. Get on that upward spiral. There is really nobody holding you back. The only person that holds you back is yourself.
Affirmations are important and powerful. But they can only go so far. If you are like most people, you are looking for external triggers and cues that would enable you to enter a certain emotional state that increases the likelihood of you taking certain actions. So what are these external triggers that you can control?
You can try clothes. Have you heard the saying, “the clothes make the man”? When you wear certain clothes, you feel good about yourself. You feel more confident. Why do you think people spend thousands of dollars per purchase on Armani clothing? You can also try music. There are certain mood music that boosts confidence because they trigger all sorts of emotional responses. You can try confidence-boosting ambience. Maybe you would surround yourself with friends who encourage you. Finally, you can try traditional long-standing remedies like Spanish Fly or aphrodisiac foods as external triggers.
You read all sorts of meanings into these and this can lead you in taking bolder and bolder action. Remember, the bottom line is actually quite simple. When it comes to meeting members of the opposite sex or taking your sex life to the next level, the world will only reward action. It is one thing to understand and realize that you have to take action but it is another to actually do it. Do it today. Do not wait until it feels right or until everything falls into place. Just do it.